I wish I could share the whole story – because, believe me, my dear friend’s story is worth celebrating and shouting from the rooftops*… But out of total respect for everything she’s been through and everyone else surrounding her, the story has to be distilled to this –
Last night, I celebrated a friend’s one year of sobriety.
It was beautiful, and I am SO proud of her.
I was struck last night by how open and honest and vulnerable everyone was. To say it was refreshing doesn’t quite cover it, honestly. There’s this tendency so often to cover up the parts of ourselves we don’t really like. We are modern, educated humanity, and of course we can make it on our own!
Try standing up in front of a room full of people and announcing your biggest fears and greatest weaknesses.
There is so much I have to learn still.
One of the central tenets of AA is that you can’t make it alone. No man is an island and all of that. You rely on God. On others. On anything bigger and stronger than yourself, because otherwise you are never getting out of the mess you’ve created. Vulnerability is your middle name.
And healing begins.
You don’t ever get to say, “Look at everything I’ve accomplished! Look at how great I am!”
You simply stand in the middle of your community and celebrate. ”It was all of you who got me here too. I could never have survived without you.”
I’m going this weekend to listen to Brene Brown speak. Her TED talk (embedded below for you – seriously, it’s so worth listening to) on the power of vulnerability was one of the most encouraging, challenging and inspiring talks I’d heard in a long time.
The trick is to jump off that cliff and take a risk. Share your soul. And be a safe place for others to do the same!
*I ran this blog past her before posting… Of course! 🙂
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