You’re thirteen right now. I’m sorry about that. I really am. It’s hard.
But you survive. That I can promise you. In fact, I wanted to share a few tips and thoughts in the meantime, just so you make it to 25.
- Coffee will always, always be awesome. It will not stunt your growth. You grow up to be 5’6”, and the world looks pretty good from there. In fact, when you’re 18, you’re going to follow your love of coffee right into a fantastic job. And then when you’re 20, a really cute boy is going to buy a cup of coffee from you. Marry him immediately.
- Superman birthday cake. No. Just, no…
- There’s a lot you hate about yourself. Things you get picked on for. Things you wish you were better at. Things you wish were different. It turns out those things that make you weird in junior high actually make you who you are as an adult. Hang on to that love of writing, of time travel stories and space operas. It’s going to come in handy in a few years.
- Oh yeah… you move to LA. You’re not crazy for dreaming about it. For reals.
- I still haven’t met Leonardo DiCaprio. Sorry about that one.
- Your parents kind of sort of actually know what they’re talking about. I know – it just blows your mind. But listen to them. They have some good stuff to say.
- When you grow up – you’re actually going to watch The Sixth Sense. For the love of God, have some perspective. Don’t let your cousin tell you the ending because “your parents are never gonna let you see it.” Sigh.
- Seriously. That whole perspective thing. There’s a whole world out there. There’s a lot of really beautiful things. A lot of wonderful people who are going join you in life, who are going to shape you into the person you’re going to become. You haven’t even met most of your life’s most influential people yet. (Awkwardly worded sentence for the win! But it’s true.) There’s another world out there as well – one that’s harsh and broken and scary. Pop that safe little bubble as soon as humanly possible, but understand that there are certain things you can never unknow. You’re going to have to find that balance between the two worlds – the beautiful and the broken….
- … so don’t be afraid. Fear is the thing that eats you up from the inside while it’s claiming to protect you. It will destroy everything you hold dear. It will destroy everything you wish for and hope for, because it holds you back and makes you doubt everyone and everything. It comes dressed up as pretty words, words like safety and Are you sure that’s what God’s telling you to do in life? and I stayed, so should you and white picket fence. The first one’s a lie, the second one comes with the very loud answer of YES! and the third one comes with this question – wouldn’t you rather live an adventure? and the fourth one… well, it turns out you still suck at all things gardening, and you’re not going to want a white picket fence front yard anyway.
- Be bold. Stop holding back. You were meant for more than what you can see right now. And that’s okay. God has this extremely annoying habit of working through things in process, and you’re just at the beginning of yours. Hold tight.
- The day you get your nose pierced – Mom and Dad are both going to come to you separately and say they really like it. Surprise surprise! You’re also going to have fire-engine red hair, pink hair, black hair, blonde hair and turquoise hair at later points in your life. Chill out when they tell you not to perm your hair. When you look back at your yearbook, you’ll appreciate it. Trust me on this one.
- Read Pride and Prejudice now. It’s going to be your favorite book one day. Start early.
- You don’t have to be perfect.
- You survive.
I’m sure one day, 40-year-old Lynn is going to be writing a letter to her younger self just like this one. It turns out I still don’t have things all sorted out, but I’m on my way. You don’t know it yet, but you are too…
Lots of love,
A slightly older and slightly wiser Lynn
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